Love or Attachment

Attachment is

something you hold on to for your own sake. Because you believe if you don't have the thing you're attached to, you'll have problems. You can't live without a certain person, a certain thing, or a certain place. Therefore, you are totally attached to a person, place, or thing. Yet in your mind, ego, mind, you call this love.

Love is absolute freedom with no attachment whatsoever. Love gives, it never takes. Love is leaving everything alone, not judging anybody or anything. Allowing it to unfold in its own inimitable way this is love.

Yet, attachment is when you're coming from ego. So you make all kinds of rules and regulations in your life, how people must behave to you as objects. They are possessed by you, and you call this love. In other words, you love somebody or something because he or she or it is doing whatever you want them to do. It's pleasing you the way you want to be pleased. So you call that love.

You do the same in relationships. When we love someone, we say that we love them terribly when we first meet them. Then, as time passes and we get older, we wish to trade them in for a new model. This was never love, it was attachment.

As the saying goes, "love is letting go and loving for its own sake". Attachment is never letting go because it satisfies your insecurity and therefore your need to control.